Let’s face it — putting your creative work out there can feel like walking a tightrope. We’re all battling those pesky inner critics, and the last thing we need is feedback that feels like a push off the edge.
But here's the deal: feedback doesn’t have to be scary. In fact, when done right, it can be the secret sauce that takes your work from good to jaw-dropping. This post is all about how to give feedback builds up rather than tears down, creating a space where creativity can really shine.
Remember, we all grapple with our own inner critics, often louder and harsher than any external voice. When the inner bully has a megaphone, external feedback can inadvertently turn UP the volume. Receiving feedback can amplify feelings of insecurity and put us on the defensive.
The "shit sandwich" approach — where criticism is sandwiched between empty compliments — can feel disingenuous and manipulative, often leaving the recipient more focused on the critique than the praise.
Artist Critique Guidelines
Here are some guidelines for creating safe environments that encourage creativity, hold space for vulnerability, and build confidence. The top five most important things to remember when giving a fellow artist critique on their work are:
Get Consent & Set Boundaries
Define the Scope
Acknowledge Effort
Keep It Short, Simple, & within Scope
End Positive & Check-in
1. Get Consent & Set Boundaries
Consent is given as a clear “Yes,” or when a person explicitly asks for feedback. Consent can also be revoked at any time. Be sure to listen for "No" or "Maybe" language, which means the person is not open to your feedback at this time, and giving your thoughts may cause more hard than good. Treat “Maybe” as “No”.
Boundaries create a safe and respectful space for both the giver and receiver of feedback. Boundaries protect emotional well-being by ensuring that feedback is only given when it's welcome and that consent is obtained. It's about understanding and respecting personal limits—what the other person is comfortable with and ready to hear.
Here are some things to listen for:
“What do you think about my color pallet?” (Yes)
“I am really energized by your piece, are you open to feedback right now?” (Asking)
“Not right now” (No)
“I am happy with my choices” (No)
“I guess”/"Sure" (Maybe/No)
2. Define the Scope
Defining the scope of feedback narrows down the focus. Once boundaries are set and consent is given, defining the scope ensures that the . It’s about targeting key areas for improvement without overwhelming the person with too much information or veering off into unrelated critiques.
How to define the scope:
FIRST, always ask, "What IS working for you (the creator)?" This gives you clear points on what NOT to review. For example if they are happy with their color pallet, then it would be overstepping to provide feedback, causing the recipient to second guess their own intuitive aesthetic style.
Ask, “What’s not working for you?
Or Ask, “Are you open to feedback about your color choices?”
Trust is built when we acknowledge the courage it takes not only to create art but also to share our creations with the world.
3. Acknowledge Effort
The "shit sandwich" approach — where criticism is sandwiched between empty compliments — can feel disingenuous and manipulative, often leaving the recipient more focused on the critique than the praise. Instead, authentic acknowledgment of hard work should stand on its own, fostering genuine trust and motivation without the need for sugar-coating.
Trust is built when we acknowledge the courage it takes not only to create art but also to share our creations with the world.
Here's how:
Start positive, acknowledge that courage, and respect their effort!
Let the creator know what IS working for you.
Share 1-3 things about the piece that you appreciate.
4. Keep It Short, Simple, & within Scope
GREAT feedback is relevant, specific, and manageable!
Relevant: Feedback directly addresses the key aspects of the work or the specific areas the person has asked about when setting scope.
Specific: Clearly identify particular elements of the work, calling out what needs attention and why. Focus on the BIG important points and avoid nit-picking.
Manageable: Feedback is concise and focused, offering a few key points that the person can realistically address without feeling overwhelmed.
Additionally, I usually limit feedback to three or fewer points to avoid overwhelming the recipient.
5. End Positive & Check-in
Ending positive and thanking the recipient is crucial because it reinforces a supportive environment, leaving them feeling appreciated and motivated to continue creating. Acknowledging the honor of reviewing their work shows respect for their vulnerability and trust, strengthening the relationship and encouraging further openness to feedback. As the one giving feedback, recognizing the privilege of being entrusted with someone’s creative work underscores the mutual respect in the process.
Finally, check-in with the recipient along the way, asking, “Does that make sense?”, “Is this helpful?” This dialogue can keep you in connection with the recipient so you are aware when they begin to withdraw, or are showing signs of overwhelm.
So there you have it — giving feedback doesn’t have to be a buzzkill. It’s all about being authentic, showing your support, and making sure your words help rather than hurt. The next time you’re asked to share your thoughts, remember that you’ve got the power to lift someone up and help them grow. Let’s keep the good vibes going and make sure our creative communities are places where everyone feels safe to share, learn, and kick some serious creative butt. Keep creating, keep sharing, and keep supporting each other—because that’s how we all get better, together.
Hope you find this helpful in creating safe spaces within your community for sharing and caring!
Have a fun creative day!
--Rachel
Resources
Here are some powerful resources to continue to expand your emotional intelligence! These resources can provide additional perspectives and strategies for cultivating a compassionate approach to feedback, both in creative endeavors and beyond.
Brené Brown – Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead: This book explores vulnerability and its role in creativity and personal growth.
Kristin Neff – Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself: This book delves into the importance of self-compassion, which is crucial when dealing with feedback.
Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen – Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well: This book offers insights into how to both give and receive feedback effectively.
Ed Catmull – Creativity, Inc.: Overcoming the Unseen Forces That Stand in the Way of True Inspiration: Offers insights into building a creative culture where feedback is used as a tool for growth.
Kim Scott – Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity: Discusses how to give candid feedback while maintaining compassion and empathy.
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